Here is your Seven-Bullet Monday
1. A quote I am pondering:
“I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” – Charles Cooley
This quote illustrates some uncomfortable and challenging truths about our relationships. Things are not always what they seem, which is no more true than in relationships. We often think others have negative thoughts toward us, which may not be the case. Let’s learn to separate the story from the facts and use that to reset.
2. A question I am asking myself:
When and how should I say the uncomfortable things?
Have you ever been in a meeting or gathering, and someone has said something that was the uncomfortable truth, the elephant in the room, so to speak? The meeting all of a sudden became much more interesting and useful. How much better was that meeting than one where the real issues weren’t dealt with? When that opportunity does come my way, I want to have the courage to speak up.
3. A book I am reading:
When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection - Gabor Matè
We have heard about how stress and emotional and mental health impact physical health, and this book details how all of this happens. It is full of moving stories of real people who suffered chronic illnesses, including breast cancer, prostate cancer, multiple sclerosis and many others. It explains the science behind how their upbringing and family histories exacerbated inherent medical conditions to accelerate the onset of these diseases.
4. My favourite podcast this week:
Huberman Lab – Ep 88: Tools to Improve Focus and Concentration
In this podcast, Huberman provides numerous behavioural, nutritional and supplement-based tools we can use to improve our ability to get into and stay in a focused state. It is very science-based, and he provides excellent explanations for each tool and the pros and cons of others, like fasting and eating before needed focus times.
Follow the Money
There is no shortage of “free” investment advice – financial advisors and brokers send you daily newsletters recommending what stocks to buy, hold or sell. What is not so obvious is who is paying for these advisors and brokers if you are not. That’s why it is essential to follow the money! Ask yourself how the advisor is paid and why they recommend a particular trade. Unfortunately, many advisors are related to, or have positions, in the businesses they recommend. The advice they give is more self-serving than it is to help you. I am not saying to ignore all the advice, but make sure you do your independent thinking before you pull the trigger on a trade.
6. My highlight this last week
A golfing weekend with 24 guys at one of the best golf courses in British Columbia
Last weekend I played in the GolfTEC annual golf tournament at the beautiful Sagebrush golf course near Merritt. It was three days of golf in a Ryder Cup format, with teams and singles competitions on different days. Two regular participants from previous years had passed away in the last year, and the organiszrs arranged a moving 21-shot salute where everyone hit their driver one after another to say farewell to their departed comrades. I met a great bunch of guys, played some interesting, occasionally good golf and had a wonderful time.
7. My challenge to you for this week
Take a one-minute cold shower once a day
Yes, a cold shower or bath isn’t the most comfortable experience, but it is incredibly good for you. It’s said to give you as much as a one-hour dopamine surge, helping energise your start to each day and make sure you come roaring out of the starting blocks as you take on the challenges of each day. Need some perk-me-up in the morning? Turn that water temperature really low and enjoy the energy surge it gives you. It beats coffee, and it will also save a little money on your heating bill 😊.
Have an awesome week